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It is indeed good to pray for the person who may step into your life. Never imagine a face or name; try asking God to send you the one who is truly for you. 

First, what is the difference between someone who is single and someone who is married? There are very few differences, except for one enormous one. The difference is not what you see. At first, we are all the same. When I talk about single people, I mean the hardened single person, that is to say, over 30 years of age, who therefore has a consciousness of life and who expects that marriage will bring a happy relationship. What is the difference? Unfortunately, being single isn't a way to avoid problems, that is, being single will allow us to live in a selfish cocoon.

All of us, men and women, know very well that solitude is terrifying and in this solitude, we will try to find ways to survive, using stopgap measures of all sorts. One can very well choose anyone to live with, and try to form a relationship, but it doesn't work out each time because in fact we do not love. You know that love is not the same as sex. So by being single, you will create the humdrum routine of daily life and think only of yourself, your hygiene, your clothes, and your own housework. And the Devil will ensure that you will unconsciously settle into a state of self-centeredness and selfishness. Then when you meet a man or a woman, it bothers you! You will immediately see the fault in the person touching your life and you will discover all that you especially do not want to see. At that moment, you much prefer solitude: the Devil makes you forget the unbearable side of solitude and makes you only see the good side of being single: being relaxed, sleeping when you want, shutting your door, your phone, and living that humdrum routine of daily life.

The Devil knows exactly what he is doing. Thus you completely erase the qualities of the other person; you only see the shortcomings. I think that for any single person, male or female - you asked how to prepare? - You must first break the cage of selfishness by trying never to live for yourself. The first notion of happiness is to make others happy. There can be no happiness otherwise. So to prepare for an opening, you must first give yourself totally to others, and be open to others in a completely free manner. That means not to seek to understand whether he will be this or she will be that; just give, give your time.

At IVI, we have the extraordinary opportunity to harmonize, to listen, to be at the service of others in many ways. And you know, there is the House of Arts, the House of Health, the House of Education, so everyone can work in different ways, always for the love of the other, and so for the glory of God, thus recognizing Christ in every being we meet. But there is also a tendency in IVI to live precisely in this cocoon of ease, because the Devil also interferes in this ease of saying, "I did my good deed today." I tell you: beware of that!

It is indeed good to pray for the person who may step into your life. Never imagine a face or name; try asking God to send you the one who is truly for you. When we truly believe in God, that is to say, in His power, not a magical power but a power that lies within the reality of things, God knows what suits us. He will not send us someone who would be an imbalance for us. God is perfection. It is true that the time seems long for us, but we have just enough time to prepare; that is, we should not calculate the time.

Pray a great deal for all the single people in the world. We are arriving at the end of this twentieth century where there are so many singles in the world, women as well as men, each waiting for their soul mate. We understand that there has been an imbalance created by man; for God has never sent beings on earth that could not meet. The soul as an energy, could be considered "a homing device", and knows very well what suits it. But we are often blind and deaf because physical traits or simply social status do not fit what we expect. We seek elsewhere. We can be blind and deaf like this for years, while the love that is destined for us is on our doorstep.

If we want to start a family, we must first be aware of breaking our egotism, that is, breaking the comfort which makes us think only of ourselves. I believe we must first break this in order to open up towards all others. Through this opening, the one who was sent to us will surely come and will be recognized as such. I think to recognize a soul mate, there is no need for tarot cards or crystal balls or anything of the sort!

All beings on earth have had many experiences when they believed to be in love, and it is the right of every man and woman to accept it. One believes to be in love. I say "believes" because one lets the imagination wander, given that we need to dream in order to exist, because the conditions of our present life do not suit us. We do not live an ideal life as we understand things, so we imagine something else that would be more acceptable than our daily life. It is very difficult to recognize the illusion within these dream states, which are necessary in our life because we also need to dream.

We should not feel guilty about our mistakes. You know, there is not a single family in France without a divorce, not to mention the rest of the world. So you should not be ashamed of that. We simply obey human laws. When we see all the marriages that were made under family pressure, one is even surprised that not everyone is yet divorced today!