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What inside of us leads us to jealousy and what are the consequences?

Jealousy is a disease. If I call it a disease, it is because it kills us slowly. It is a silent destruction.

Why does jealousy destroy so many men and women? What is this beast that eats away at humans, to the point of not trusting the one whom we chose to love one day? We say "love" but we do not love the person if we do not trust him.

Jealousy is a disease. If I call it a disease, it is because it kills us slowly. It is a silent destruction. We look at the other who is better than we are. We would like the dress the other wears, the husband that the other one has: he's the best; he's better; he's more perfect...

Everything that touches us is destructive. That is to say we are not beautiful, or we are not beautiful enough. Others do not look at us in the same way. My husband - even though we've been married a long time - must have something else going on in his mind; it is not possible that he loves me for myself, etc. We will strive to destroy the one we say we love. We deprive him of his liberty, and Martine explained it well. We lock him up in our so-called love and we make him a slave.

Do you think that God does not see the reality of things? If we love, it is a permanent state of trust with the one we love. He has the right to freedom, he has the right to be looked at, he has the right to walk, he has the right to run, he has the right to eat, he has the right to laugh, because he is entitled to life. And if we violate these laws, it means that we do not love.

Learning to love goes through various stages. You must truly look at yourself and accept to be told your failings, in order to truly metamorphose and transform. Love does not come just like that, with the wave of a magic wand, even if we were supposedly very much in love with each other at the time of our marriage or engagement. But we know that time wears down those feelings; the passion we felt for each other gradually fades. We destabilize the other through constant questioning, and that makes him suffer.

Both women and men refuse each other, saying: "Well done. Now he will understand." And gradually we grow apart and then we are surprised that life becomes a living hell. I think we must realize this, in order to truly understand that there is a worm in the apple. You must remove the worm because it eats away at the fruit. And jealousy is this worm.