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What does fidelity in my relationship mean to me? Am I faithful in my thoughts and in my actions?

I think that couples must live this life as an extraordinary experience in order to get through this test - and I say test in the sense of love - but also to get through the events that will lead to the realization and the revelation of what each person is and what one must do with the other.

It is very important to realize this: no human society has been able to reach perfection without the fidelity of the couple. Because fidelity will teach us, day after day, to structure ourselves on the values of the other and not to dream. That means not to create in our imagination laws that would have us believe that other partners would be better than the one we chose. It is therefore important to understand what this fundamental fidelity, of which God speaks, is.

In fact, fidelity is not at all what we believe or what we imagine it to be. It's not a sin to deceive one's husband or wife. What is serious is to detach oneself from the divine process. From the moment you escape God's law, you are ripped apart and automatically there is self-destruction within, and guilt comes into play. Out of this guilt will come all the moods that create aggressiveness, fears, anxieties and shortcomings. Where there is darkness, there is a secret. And as soon as there is a secret, we cannot talk about it to the other because we do not have a clear conscience.

I think we need to understand what God wants: for there to be light. Thus, in the life of a couple, nothing should stay in the shadows. So we must love each other before people and before God in the same way. This means approaching the other with heightened awareness, to better understand and love firmly the other, but also with care and tolerance, always trying to understand why we met, and what the value of this coexistence may be. It only took a few seconds, or perhaps a single glance, to know that we had something to do together. At that moment, a number of things were decided which could last a lifetime. I think that couples must live this life as an extraordinary experience in order to get through this test - and I say test in the sense of love - but also to get through the events that will lead to the realization and the revelation of what each person is and what one must do with the other.

God says: "procreate"; He does not say "create" but "procreate", which means that He gives us freedom. He will constantly give us gifts through this freedom to love, some of which can be children. So I think in this law of procreation, there is a fundamental, universal balance. I think the couple is blessed beforehand, as soon as there is fusion: the fusion of two souls, fusion and therefore union. I think that it is of common interest to understand that polygamy, or other forms of society which neutralize this fidelity in the couple, was created by laws of men out of ease and to avoid all ambiguities of fidelity. If we have many wives or husbands, the guilt is certainly diminished, but who are we before the Creator? Have we the right to make laws that contradict what God wants of us? That's the whole problem. What convincing proofs has polygamy brought to the world or to humanity? So even if these laws exist in human terms, they have never proved anything as divine laws.

I think we must really understand that a couple is made of two people, a man and a woman, who must understand each other. Through this understanding, hard work begins: the knowledge of the other through the mirror of the other, which we are.