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What would you change in yourself in order to accept the other? 

If people knew how to love each other, all these tragedies that we know today wouldn't exist. You do not know how to love each other. You do not know how to put up with each other. You do not know how to tolerate each other. You tolerate nothing in the other. You wish the other to be perfect, but are you?

Who pushed the other person to be unfaithful? Infidelity never comes out of nowhere. It comes because you also were deceived. You have often been treated with contempt. So you search for the kind of love that you did not have. You believe that the other will bring you something and yet you realize very quickly that the other does not bring you anything either, so you look elsewhere.

We must understand what it means to be faithful. If people knew how to love each other, all these tragedies that we know today wouldn't exist. You do not know how to love each other. You do not know how to put up with each other. You do not know how to tolerate each other. You tolerate nothing in the other. You wish the other to be perfect, but are we? Are we perfect? Do we know how to forgive? One hears all the time: I love him, I love you, I will love you, but you always act in a contradictory way. You do not love him because you do not accept his weaknesses; you do not accept his flaws. You want him to be perfect, yet you yourself do nothing to become perfect.

We must learn how to love, how to love someone by accepting him. And he will change because you have accepted him. It is because you have loved him with all his weaknesses, all his faults and all his imperfections, it is because you have loved him as such, that he will become what you want him to be. A man cannot change unless he has an example before him. It doesn't matter how many books you read; one does not learn to love in books. Show him your love, and that love becomes a beacon, it becomes light, and from that moment, it radiates over everyone. And there you will see that the one you desire to be perfect, will be so, because you were his support, because you were his pillar, because you were his beacon, because you were able every day to accept his transformation with a smile.

The aggressiveness of a man or his jealousy is merely an expression of his suffering. He expresses what he wishes to live. A man's suffering is what traps him. This is what we must understand. Let us try to better put up with each other. Let us understand that any aggression is an expression of the pain of the other. If we can anticipate his suffering, we touch his soul, and that is how we will be able to help.

We must pray for the other; sometimes words are useless. Your tenderness, your actions and your gestures will allow the other to be shaped. Little by little, you will remove him from his prison. You will break the barrier between him and you, this wall which grew daily through intolerance, judgments and mutual pride. And you will remove stone after stone from that which was built by our folly of wishing to own him, to monopolise him. We wanted to possess the other person. We think we love the other because we want to possess the other. But love cannot thrive in possession. Love can only be lived in freedom, leaving the other to act.